TW Jackson's relationship guide, The Magic Of Making Up, offers unconventional but effective tips to get your ex back. The foundation of the book are based on the following five tips.
Agree With The Breakup
It sounds counter productive until you examine the logic behind this decision. You can either beg, plead and argue while establishing a pattern of confrontation or you can agree with the breakup and eliminate the confrontation from your ex's thought process. Agreeing with the breakup will lower their guard and allow you to re-establish your relationship as friends.
Avoid Contact
The worst thing you can do after a breakup is seek constant contact. Whether in the form of phone calls, in person visits or constant text messaging, it's always a bad idea. Avoiding contact will give your ex time to calm down and re-think their decision. If you absolutely must see or talk to your ex, keep the time spent together to a minimum.
Portray Yourself In A Positive Light
You want your ex to believe they've made the mistake of a lifetime by letting you go. If you throw a pity party and sulk around in your pajamas for several weeks you'll confirm their instincts to break off the relationship. If you move forward by making yourself and your life better, your value will be re-established in the eyes of your ex.
Use A Slow Progression
The Magic Of Making Up has a definite progression. The goals are to re-establish your value, rebuild your friendship before attempting reconciliation. If you believe you can jump right back into your loving relationship without first doing some work or damage control you'll be left disappointed. You have to regain their trust before you regain their love.
The Instant Reconnect Technique
After rebuilding a friendship, a large obstacle for most people is to take the relationship back to a loving couple. The instant reconnect technique is designed to take your relationship back to when you were inseparable. There are certain rituals, and loving habits that are specific to your relationship. It's how couples bond.
Repeating those loving traits stirs up memories and emotions, recreating the loving bond you once had.
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